Let's Talk: Moving During Childhood

The average child moves 2.5 times between birth and 8th grade, with some moving up to 11 times before they turn 18. That's a lot of new beginnings! Change can be hard and stressful, but it's also an incredible opportunity for growth and building resilience.

So let’s talk about how we can support kids through these big life shifts in ways that makes sense.

two little girls, smiling inside of a moving box, playing

The Pillars of Successful Transitions

Every major change involves six key elements: preparation, communication, adaptation, patience, creating new connections and maintaining old ones. Here's how to master each:

1. Preparation Is Your Best Friend

Visit the new neighborhood before moving day
Take virtual tours of the new school
Create a visual countdown calendar
Pack a special "first day" box with comfort items for school OR a basket for the home (kids are suckers for cute things)

Some comfort item ideas:

A stuffed animal or comfort toy
Family photos
A special note from parents or loved ones
Their favourite snacks
A small journal and colorful pens
A (familiar) book
A special keychain or small token that reminds them of home
A new small item that makes them excited about the transition
One of our Affirmation Cards for kids

2. Open Communication

Kids need space to express their feelings - all of them! Create daily check-in routines. These can be as simple as sharing highs and lows during dinner or having a special "worry time" before bed.

Key: Worry time before bed may sound counter-productive, encourage kids to share their worries and then brainstorm “best case scenarios” to change the direction of their thoughts.

3. Create Environmental Familiarity

Set up their bedroom first when moving to give them a safe space
Display familiar photos and decorations immediately
Let them help design their new space

4. Patience

Adaptation takes time! Be prepared and supportive when it comes to setbacks and regression. It can take 6-8 weeks for a new place to start feeling like home.

5. Build Social Connections

Research and join local community groups or sports teams
Arrange playdates with neighbours or classmates
Connect with other parents in the area through social media or school events
Find a local counselor or support group if needed
Reach out to teachers and school staff early

6. Maintain Connections

Schedule in-person or virtual catch-ups with old friends
Create a digital scrapbook of memories from their previous home

Quick Tips That Make a Big Difference

Maintain familiar routines (even in new spaces)
Create a "comfort corner" in the new home right away
Plan something exciting for the new location

Now it's your turn! What strategies have worked for your family during big transitions? Share your experiences in the comments below - your story might be exactly what another parent/caregiver needs to hear!

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Release Date: April 22, 2025